YES a billion times over! I married at 18 and had my son at 19 and was filled with delusions. Before I was even old enough to drink, I was a divorced mom with a baby and a high school diploma. I don't regret having him, but I do regret how my experience with motherhood with was mostly fear based. All the usual insecurities a mom has felt 10X as intense because of my age and financial instability. It was HARD. And there's no goddamn way on earth I could have "romanticized" it. WTF does that even mean? My great kid is 33 now, and it's just in the last couple of years I've been able to grocery shop without adding everything up in my head to make sure I had enough money to pay for it all. (I still cannot buy groceries when stressed, because the math just starts happening. It's so automatic.) This whole tradwife movement is so insidious that I struggle to mock it.
What I came here to mention: Grove.co has compostable sandwich bags. All size ziplocks actually. And kitchen trash bags that are actually really great. All we use now.
Sidebar: When I moved to the Bay Area Peninsula (basically silicon valley to the city) from the Central Coast (SLO), I told my GF at the time there's no way I'm raising a child here. It's weird and angry. All the guys that grew up here are insecure little man-boy wannabes that think they're always in a competition they're both winning and losing that both does and does not exist.
But.
If we had a girl... Then I might stay. B/c the women that grew up here are the opposite. It is intrinsic/inherent that they belong at the table and are generally pretty badass without actually trying or in the mind-frame that they're tying to be where they don't belong. It's the ***only*** thing I actually like about the bay.
YES a billion times over! I married at 18 and had my son at 19 and was filled with delusions. Before I was even old enough to drink, I was a divorced mom with a baby and a high school diploma. I don't regret having him, but I do regret how my experience with motherhood with was mostly fear based. All the usual insecurities a mom has felt 10X as intense because of my age and financial instability. It was HARD. And there's no goddamn way on earth I could have "romanticized" it. WTF does that even mean? My great kid is 33 now, and it's just in the last couple of years I've been able to grocery shop without adding everything up in my head to make sure I had enough money to pay for it all. (I still cannot buy groceries when stressed, because the math just starts happening. It's so automatic.) This whole tradwife movement is so insidious that I struggle to mock it.
What I came here to mention: Grove.co has compostable sandwich bags. All size ziplocks actually. And kitchen trash bags that are actually really great. All we use now.
Sidebar: When I moved to the Bay Area Peninsula (basically silicon valley to the city) from the Central Coast (SLO), I told my GF at the time there's no way I'm raising a child here. It's weird and angry. All the guys that grew up here are insecure little man-boy wannabes that think they're always in a competition they're both winning and losing that both does and does not exist.
But.
If we had a girl... Then I might stay. B/c the women that grew up here are the opposite. It is intrinsic/inherent that they belong at the table and are generally pretty badass without actually trying or in the mind-frame that they're tying to be where they don't belong. It's the ***only*** thing I actually like about the bay.
We have a 3 and half year old daughter now.