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Tracy Reynolds's avatar

I loved and hated reading this. I loved it because your piece resonated so deeply with me. I hated it because I haven’t reconciled my complicated feelings around this yet. Even though I am 54. I am mom of 4, and had “surprise” twins at 43, so I am still in career limbo, and I am still, unresolved about it all (and cleaning makes me unhappy rather than calm).

I think the best way through it for all of us, is to keep talking about it, and validating it for each other.

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Rlaker84's avatar

My 7 month old just started daycare. I don’t think I was ever cut out to be a stay at home mom, but I simultaneously miss her, yet am relieved to not be trying to work and care for her at the same time. I felt so burned out and like I was failing everyone. She loves daycare, I am relieved about that, but also guilty that I could not give her what she needed while at home and working. It’s all so complex. I told myself that I could handle that both my job and my child aren’t getting 100% of me, but it is harder than I thought.

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