oh that last one -- I have approximately 2 pictures of myself with my daughter (who's now 22 years/264 months), and a million pictures of her with every tom, dick, and harry who held her for 5 seconds during her first couple of weeks of life.
It's so sad! This time around I'm going to be a real bulldog about people taking pictures of me with my baby. I have a few from when my first was little, but not enough.
If it’s your second (or any subsequent birth), get that epidural sooner than later (if that’s your jam). Shit can happen real fast even if you labored a long time the first time. Signed,someone who accidentally had an unmediated birth and screamed like a feral animal which then terrified my husband so much that he passed out and a code blue was called (everyone was fine in the end).
Exactly the same. I took my time getting to the hospital thinking ‘I’ve got this’, and was stunned when they said “honey it’s too late for an epidural”. Fortunately it went fast but I felt like my bones cracked open.
I agree with almost all of this, but the sleep deprivation struggle still scars me! I had twins and the lack of sleep was so bad. When my mom stayed over after the babies were born and blithely announced she was going to bed one night, my anger against her was so intense! Irrational, but intense! Twenty plus years later, I am still very protective of my sleep. 😂
I was nodding along with this!! I did a double-take when we got separate hospital bills for me and our kiddo.
My biggest lesson was to hold lightly to expectations. Before birth, I thought pumping and shifts were silly. But after our little 'Chomper' (his hospital nickname!) arrived, they became absolute lifesavers.
As someone with sensory sensitivities, pumping was worth every extra dish. I also treasured the middle-of-the-night check-ins with my spouse during shift changes. The shifts kept us somewhat sane through cluster-feeding.
oh that last one -- I have approximately 2 pictures of myself with my daughter (who's now 22 years/264 months), and a million pictures of her with every tom, dick, and harry who held her for 5 seconds during her first couple of weeks of life.
It's so sad! This time around I'm going to be a real bulldog about people taking pictures of me with my baby. I have a few from when my first was little, but not enough.
If it’s your second (or any subsequent birth), get that epidural sooner than later (if that’s your jam). Shit can happen real fast even if you labored a long time the first time. Signed,someone who accidentally had an unmediated birth and screamed like a feral animal which then terrified my husband so much that he passed out and a code blue was called (everyone was fine in the end).
Exactly the same. I took my time getting to the hospital thinking ‘I’ve got this’, and was stunned when they said “honey it’s too late for an epidural”. Fortunately it went fast but I felt like my bones cracked open.
There is no prize for the women who suffers the most. Especially when based on others’ advice. Follow your own inner compass.
I agree with almost all of this, but the sleep deprivation struggle still scars me! I had twins and the lack of sleep was so bad. When my mom stayed over after the babies were born and blithely announced she was going to bed one night, my anger against her was so intense! Irrational, but intense! Twenty plus years later, I am still very protective of my sleep. 😂
"You get what you get" is my north star in parenting. It fits so many situations!
I was nodding along with this!! I did a double-take when we got separate hospital bills for me and our kiddo.
My biggest lesson was to hold lightly to expectations. Before birth, I thought pumping and shifts were silly. But after our little 'Chomper' (his hospital nickname!) arrived, they became absolute lifesavers.
As someone with sensory sensitivities, pumping was worth every extra dish. I also treasured the middle-of-the-night check-ins with my spouse during shift changes. The shifts kept us somewhat sane through cluster-feeding.